And when you're not really a part of a group or an ideology, and you take bits and pieces from everything to create something of your own, people become confused and frustrated, and they don't believe they can trust you.
(The only noteworthy thing about being beholden to an ideology, if you are faithful and loyal to it, is you are so predictable, and you CAN be trusted.)
But otherwise, an honest man cannot be trusted (right Captain Jack? A bit of "Hollywood wisdom")
Also, THE HYPOCRISY of learning to embrace your uniqueness PULLEASE. If you are just a slight variation of the mainstream, you will be accepted and people will ooh and aah and call you "different" and "special", but if you are too different, you will not compute, and the herd will want to weed you out.
(When people disagree with you, it is scary. So many of us are into people-pleasing, especially if we're women. We don't like it when people don't like us and not necessarily reciprocate our affection, but just don't approve of us.)
And someone who doesn't fit into a category for you, is someone who cannot be caught, cannot be "placed". And you might understand them sometimes, but you and I will never truly be friends.
Jenny Facius is founder and editor-in-chief of Devilish Turn